Thanks to Cirnelle that blog addict who perseveres in turning me into one, I read Zewt's blog today on evolution of love and attempts to assess love based on the existence of good reasons.
I agree that love evolves. From the initial stages of excitement (or 'monkey love') through moments of jealousy, or pain and suffering caused by the the clash of personalities, love SHOULD evolve. Question goes...whether the love evolves to something better or for worst. I use to think that if love is at 20% capacity, but with 100% commitment, relationships can still be successful. But from real life experience, there is a lot of bull to that. Why do I say that? Well, the absence of a reason, or the no need to explain factor is really what they call an 'X' factor which draws 2 people together. Many people could tell you examples based on their relationship. One I was told about was, if you stand in a crowded room, you'll be able to sense the person's presence.
One should be careful that he/she does not confuse the the 'X' factor with sexual attraction. That is another blog topic altogether. The danger of this confusion could be, you get misled and misdirected, before you realise that you are not on the same page as this person 3/4 of the time!
Back to 'X'. Although this is something unexplainable, and therefore no need for reasoning. I personally feel, that the 'X' factor which surface in the course of a persons' communication with the right one. For instance, the sense of peace you feel when you are with that person, which explains why they are the one you look for when you are unhappy. Secondly, there is just absolutely no space for doubt. Thirdly, you just tend to follow the way the person does certain things. Someone once told me, in matters such as this, you follow your gutt feeling. There is truth in that, but over and above that, you should stop lying to yourself, and ask yourself whether you really love him/her. If the 'X' factor is not there.... you should face the truth and let him/her as when it comes to matters of the heart... we only have 1 to use for a lifetime.
4 comments:
haha... adaptation... but yet, it's your thoughts still... but hey... link me la when you mention my nick... :)
you see... a lot of ppl digressed a bit when they read my entry. i am talking more about love... but here, you're talking more on attraction. the x factor will result in attraction, but it will not keep a couple in love... i believe.
Chicken and egg argument. Try defining what love is and you'll probably come back to 'X' haha. How to link la?
Cirnelle's definition of love - death is not a fearful thing when it comes to protecting those or that which you love.
So, anything under that benchmark does not qualify as love. I definitely would not lay my life down for one I was merely attracted to.
in the edit post window... select the word 'zewt' and there is a button on top that looks something like the symbol of 'infinity'... click on that and you'll know...
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